4 Killer Conversation Starters at the Bar

When you’re at a bar, you shouldn’t hide in the corner! Starting a conversation can lead to new friends, a great date and so much more. 

Don’t know where to begin? These conversation starters will make everything fun when hanging out at the bar.

1. Hey! You know what?

What can be better than grabbing someone’s attention? Peak one’s curiosity! It’s a great way to add suspense to everything you’re going to say after that. This simple line is an open-ended question, which is perfect for leading the way into what you can say next.

Besides, even if you don’t have anything else to say after the first phrase, having a 20-second conversation with a person at a bar makes it easy to go over and talk to that person again later.

2. Hey, can you give me some advice on…?

This is a great conversation starter with the opposite gender if you’re new to this game and just trying to build your confidence. There is nothing sexual in this line but it is a great opportunity to start a conversation without looking creepy or weird. This is just one of many indirect openers and it makes the other person feel like their opinion matters and you’re ready to listen to them.

3. Have you tried this drink yet?

With this line, you’re just being ‘cool’ and appearing to be friendly, confident, and social. There is nothing in this phrase that can cause negative reactions; even better, you’re providing an opportunity for someone else to continue a conversation by asking their advice.

As long as you say this in a friendly manner, most people will be happy to open a conversation. Likewise, some people at a bar can also feel unsure of themselves when approached by a stranger, so if you’re saying it in a relaxed, confident way, they will begin to open up as well.

4. That drink looks cool, what is it?

When you’re at a bar, there’s usually a lot going on around you and you can always comment on the drink to start a conversation. You will find many people with cocktails and this simple, yet playful phrase is a great way to show that you’re a friendly person who wants to have fun with people. Particularly at a bar, when you can tease someone, it really makes you stand out from the crowd.

Keep in mind that starting and keeping the conversation going isn’t rocket science, so keep it fun and simple. Usually, a question with an open answer is the best conversation starter; drawing people to you out of inquisitiveness. Present yourself with confidence and a friendly smile and you will appear as a playful and fun person.

These are suggestions that are guaranteed to work when you want to approach someone and start a conversation at a bar. Feel free to play around with these lines and your own openers will naturally appear. Now, you’re prepared and can impress people with your confidence. Good luck!

Original Article: https://botyapp.com/blog-killer-conversation-starters/

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How to Get a Bartending Job

Want to work as a bartender but don’t have any experience? Well, we’ve got good news and bad news for you.

The good news is; landing a job in the service industry is pretty easy. The bad news is; it may not be a bartending job right off the bat. Not to worry though, because we’ve got some tips for breaking into the industry.

Make Friends with Bartenders

By far the most important thing you can do to land yourself a sweet bartending gig is to befriend some bartenders. As with most industries, bars and restaurants are all about nepotism. If someone who likes you knows you need a job, the next time they hear of one they’ll recommend you.

If you don’t have any experience bartending, why not ask a friend if you can train with them? This may not fly in fine dining establishments but I know several dive bars where the bartenders train the occasional newbie.

Act Professional 

Just because bartending is a fun job in environments that are often relaxed and casual doesn’t mean you should be too informal. Bring a resume to interviews, dress professionally, and be on time. It sounds ridiculous, but just these three things will set you apart from the rest.

Hit the Pavement

I’ve gotten two bartending jobs by simply walking in with my resume (during non-busy times of course) and asking if the place is hiring. Yes, this is tedious and time consuming but it can pay off if you’re in the right place at the right time.

Start Small

If you’ve never bartended before you may need to start off in a different position such as barback or hostess. Then when a position opens up, you’ll be there to fill it. Don’t worry, turnover in restaurants tends to be high and an opportunity may arise  sooner than you think..

Skip Bartending School

Bartending school is widely laughed at in the service industry and the things you learn there rarely translate to reality. Instead, focus on getting actual training somewhere. Don’t worry about memorizing a million drinks, that will come with time. Bartending is about being efficient, friendly, and good in a team setting.

Don’t Skip Certifications

Many bars and restaurants require certifications such as a food handler’s license or TIPS certifications. These courses are cheap and not too time-intensive and employers love to see that on a resume. 

Got any other tips? Let us know!

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7 Myths about Bar Regulars

There are a lot of myths and stigmas going around about bar regulars. It’s time to find out if there is any truth behind them.

Have you ever noticed that if you frequent the bar too often, you are considered strange? Why are you here all the time? Why don’t you drink at home?

Well some people don’t like to drink at home or alone. Some people enjoy the social aspect of being in a bar setting.

Bar regulars enjoy going to the bar to share secrets and get the honest truth. Your favorite show growing up was Cheers, and you seek to go to the place where everyone knows your name.

We covered myths about bartenders before and now we discuss the folks in front of the bar.

Here are the some of biggest myths about bar regulars.

1. Bar regulars are all drunks

Myth: All of the bartenders and managers know who you are. Your favorite drink and seat are waiting for you when you get there, and everyone knows more about your personal life than you do. They realize when you’ve had enough and got your home address saved when it’s time to call you an Uber. So maybe bar regulars are all drunks.

Reality: Nah… Not all people go to the bar on a regular basis to get drunk. Some love to confess their sins to their favorite bartender or bitch about their day at work to anyone who will listen. Others love hanging around other bar patrons and talk about everything from politics, sports, relationships and so much more. The bar is actually a really cool place to make new friends.

2. Bar regulars have no social life

Myth: You’re at the bar all the time because you have no real friends. Your home life sucks and you come to the bar  everyday to drink your pain away. Bad people frequent the bar and if you go all the time, you must be one of them. Of course bar regulars have no social life. Right?

Reality: Well… Human beings are social animals and having a good social life is important for our mental health. But instead of socializing, we work, go home, watch tv, post on social media, repeat. Without positive, strong, and real-life relationships, both our minds and our bodies will fall apart. Yes the bar has weirdos and alcoholics, but so does your job. At least at the bar the truths are not hidden.

3. Bar regulars have no job

Myth: How can you be at the bar all the time if you have a job? You can be seen during the day shift at 11am as well during the late night at 1am. And you are there all the time. How do you do it? You drink all day, at different times a day so when do you work? So yes most of the bar regulars are unemployed.

Reality: Nope not true… The world is more mobile now and that gives peoples the ability to work from anywhere. And if you have two options to work from anywhere, one would be an island and the other would be at the bar. So bar regulars do have jobs that allow the flexibility to work from the bar. You should try it.  

4. Bar regulars are drug dealers

Myth: If you’re at the bar all the time, day and night. That means one thing, you must be a drug dealer. And the bar is your place of work.

Reality: It’s 2017, the security is too tight at the bar to allow drug deals to happen. Okay that was an exaggeration. Seriously, just because a person is at the bar all day and night buying everyone drinks doesn’t mean a thing. They drink a lot because they are overwhelmed with how to spend that family inheritance. See it’s all about perspective. Drug dealers are too busy to hang out at the bar all the time.

5. Bar regulars are emotionally screwed up

Myth: Who did you break up with this week? Is your wife cheating on you again? What did you get fired for this time? You are at the bar on a regular basis because your life is in constant turmoil and you need the bar to help process it all.  

Reality: All people are emotionally screwed up. At least at the bar you can accept that truth and deal with the issues. And what better way to figure things out than with others who are in shittier situations.

6. Bar regulars are looking for the hookup

Myth: You are just there to pick up chicks or dudes. What does your husband think about you being at the bar all the time?

Reality: Yeah so what. Everyone at the bar knows you so if you are a scumbag, everyone would know it and warn the hookup. So try again.

7. Bar regulars are creepy

Myth: All you do is sit at the bar alone and stare at the bartenders all night. You hope one day you get lucky and you will take one home.  

Reality: There are a few signs to determine if you are a creep or not:

1. The staring
2. You ask awkward questions
3. You won’t give up
4. The stalking
5. You don’t understand personal space
6. The rambling
7. You’re too eager 

Whether you like it or not, the world is filled with creeps. So if you consistently do at least 4 of the 7, you are a creep.

 Original Article: https://botyapp.com/blog-myths-bar-regulars/

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